Gentlemen, the ancient martial arts masters and spiritual teachers knew semen retention works. They just didn't have the science to speak about it. Here is some science.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLxFazLK2Mg
Wednesday, May 17, 2023
Tuesday, May 16, 2023
Scarcity Mindset, Semen Retention, and having “Good Faith.”
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“A Scarcity Mindset is when you believe there are limited
resources, so if someone else has something, you feel there is less of that
resource available for you.”
-Tabitha Kirkland
I have been learning, practicing, and teaching semen
retention for over forty years. Most of my teaching has been done privately, in
person, with one or two students. Now with my blog, and various social
platforms, I’m reaching a wider audience. I’m getting feedback, comments,
gratitude, and questions, which encourage the need for, and importance of, this
vital knowledge.
There is a teaching from the Tao of Love that has benefited
me not only in love, but in all aspects of my life. It’s called ‘Good Faith.” To
better understand the concept of good faith, we need to explore its opposite:
scarcity mindset. Kind of like the Taoist glass half-full/half-empty!
“Scarcity Mentality measures out life in ounces: it
always concludes that the need outweighs the resources.”
-Erin Straza
Learning about prosperity from the late Paul Gallagher, he
first introduced me to the concept that there is more than enough of everything
for everyone. The idea that there is a finite amount of money, or customers, or
resources leads one to look and act in the world from a scarcity mindset. Paul
introduced me to the teachings of Napoleon Hill.
Hill stressed that nature always gives more than needed,
such as in more seeds than can become plants, or thousands of fish eggs that
get eaten before they can become fully developed. Nature is full of abundance
and shows it every day. Basically, we are given more than what we could ever
want or need. Scarcity comes from fear, greed, or even a childhood of deprivation
and want. Hill’s teachings included “going the extra mile,” and “doing more
than you are paid for,” which show his understanding of nature and his faith in
abundance.
” People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything
in terms of win-lose. There is only so much: and if someone else has it, that
means there will be less for me. The principle-centered we become, the more we develop
an abundance mentality, the more genuinely happy for the success, well-being, achievements,
recognition, and good fortune of other people. We believe their success adds to…rather
than detracts from…our lives.”
-Steven Covey
For many years in my career as a Tai-Chi instructor, I
suffered from the scarcity mindset. I believed there were only so many people
who could benefit from this art, or who were interested in learning it. I would
try to hold on to every inquirer who came through the door. Or try to steal
other teacher’s students. Or outright tell people they could only learn the
real art from me. I tried everything to hold on to as many students as I could
get. Sounds pathetic and desperate! I was.
"Being a warrior means that you are not hungry and desperate, like the poor bastard that thinks he will never eat again and devours all the food he can."
-Don Juan Matus
Gradually, as I saw Tai-Chi grow in popularity, increase in
the public eye, and become mainstream, I had lots of people coming to learn.
Nature showed me Her abundance. I also grew in maturity as a teacher and
devoted myself to the art, not self-promotion, or the size of my classes. When
people left for other teachers, arts, or styles, I let them go with sincere
good wishes for their learning and growth. My philosophy developed into
thinking that if I’m not the teacher for you, or Tai-Chi is not the art for
you, or my school was too far away, that I did not want you to be in my
classes. This led me to not only an abundance, but a deeper quality, of students
and seekers.
” Abundance and lack are always both present, and we get
the one we focus on.”
-Myron Golden
I see abundance in everything now. I’m not concerned with
natural resources running out. I don’t believe there is a shortage of students,
or food, or money, or anything really. Except maybe a sense of humor! So now I have come to semen retention and the crucial idea of having
faith in the abundance of the Tao.
“To rise when desirous and to rest when not, this is ‘good faith.’ ”
-The Classic of Su Nu
To practice semen retention and gain all its benefits and
wonders, you have to have an abundance mentality. The above quote is talking
about erections. To have an erection, not ejaculate, and rest or soften after,
requires faith in the method and concept. Let’s look at some common scarcity
ideas as concerning sex.
This may be my last erection.
This may be my last ejaculation.
This may be my last lover.
This may be my last opportunity for sex.
This may be my last time making love with my spouse.
This may be the last person on earth!
If these statements were true, then you would “go for the gold” and” get all you could” and “stay with them til your seas are dried up.” (Thank you, Eric Clapton!) A man who practices the Tao and has faith and experience in semen retention knows this is not the last of any of those. Unless of course his time is up, or something drastic happens. He knows he will have other erections, love-making sessions, etc.
He can have faith in this and not
ejaculate out of desperation. He can end his loving with a thoroughly loved
partner, while still possessing a full erection. He can then meditate and circulate the
energy, use breathing or a cold shower, or simply use time to let it subside.
Or he could begin another session of intimacy. Retaining his vital essence for
his health, spiritual advancement, or a future round of lovemaking, this is
good faith!
” Those who have an abundance mindset are far more likely
to be happy with their lives and to achieve their goals than those who have a
scarcity mindset.”
-Mike Cernovich
I hope this helps you with not only your Taoist practices, but your daily lives. There is so much you had, you have, and will have. There is no shortage, only the perception of shortage. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to write to me. Until then, keep the faith!
25 Laws of Success by Napoleon Hill
Journey to Ixtlan by Carlos Castaneda
The Book of Druidry by Ross Nichols
Art of the Bedchamber by Douglas Wile
What that thing is doesn't much matter; whether it's too little time, money,
friendship, food - it all contributes to experience a "scarcity
mentality". And this has benefits. People who experience a sense of
scarcity are good at managing their short-term problems. Poor people have an
incredible ability - in the short term - to make ends meet, the same way that
overworked CEOs can power through to close a deal.
Despite all this, the drawbacks of a "scarcity mentality" are greater
than the benefits. Scarcity narrows your focus to your immediate lack, to the
meeting that's starting in five minutes or the bills that need to be paid
tomorrow. The long-term perspective goes out of the window. "Scarcity
consumes you", Shafir explains. "You're less able to focus on other
things that are also important to you.
There's a key distinction though between people with busy lives and those living in poverty: You can't take a break from poverty.”
- Rutger Bregman
Tuesday, May 9, 2023
MMTCA May Newsletter 2023
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| Master Paul B. Gallagher 1944-2023 "Wild Gosse Leaves the Flock" |
“How are we who spend so much time in the light to recover that inner dimness that dissolves the borders between bodies and that universal precondition for physical and spiritual rapture of any kind?”
-Clark Strand
May is here, the blooming and opening and warming echo my heart!
I had my first outdoor practice, and it was glorious! Speaking of outside…
Beginning May 9th, we will be holding classes
outside! Yes, I wrote that! We’ll still have St Sahag as our rainy-day option.
Here is our schedule:
Tuesdays 6-8PM=St Sahag backyard
Wednesdays 630-730PM=zoom
Thursdays 6-8PM= East River Flats Park
Saturdays 900-1030AM= East River Flats Park
One Monday a month= zoom Pushing-Hands
If you have any questions, please contact me.
August 25_ 28th Summer Tai-Chi Retreat at Wild
Rice Retreat Center in Bayfield WI. (Deposits
are due!)
The cost is 900.00 per person. That includes instruction and
presentations, 2 meals a day, room and lodging, use of the facilities and
sauna, for three nights and two and a half days. We’ll do a long practice each
day, have free time to hike and explore, and have sessions on:
-Solo Form Updates, Review, and Refinement.
-Applications for the 2nd Section.
-2 Advanced Pushing-Hands Drills: Willow #2, and Short
Power.
-Two-Person Cane Form.
-Pa-Kua two-person form, The Black Dragon Wags Its Tail.
The center is a short walk, on a wooded trail along Lake
Superior, to downtown Bayfield. I will also have programs and presentations for
the evenings. I need a deposit (refundable) of 300 dollars by May 1st.
If we have enough people to make this a go, I’ll expect the balance by August 1st.
I’ll be arranging rides for the out-of-town people and will coordinate carpools
for the locals.
Book suggestion=Body Mechanics of Tai-Chi Chuan by Master
William C.C. Chen
https://www.abebooks.com/Body-Mechanics-Tai-Chuan-Chen-William/30080259603/bd
Zoom options for classes. We have a weekly zoom class on the
solo form on Wednesdays. Thursday is a hybrid class where I teach in person and
also zoom it live. Once a month for the Summer, I’ll zoom a pushing-hands
class. If you want to join any of these, let me know.
We have HOODIES!!
https://www.zazzle.com/single_whip_chakra_zip_up_hoodie-256329671102020889
Check out Margo’s blog at:
https://purpleswallowarts.com/f/taiji-for-kids
Thank you to everyone who contributed a red envelope for
Master Choi’s birthday card. He is grateful for your attention, respect, and generosity.
I attended Master Paul Gallagher’s funeral in Asheville N.C.
It was a beautiful spot with a lovely view of the mountains…
For those of you who have read Drawing Silk, here is some
trivia and a puzzle. Paul Gallagher told me that most of his learning,
practicing, and teaching are contained in his three Taoist stories, another
reason to read or reread them! Here are two puzzles for you, Paul told me he is
one of the characters in the stories. He also said I am one as well! So, can
you figure out who we are? I’ll give the answers next month!
I look for to practicing and teaching outside! Join me!
-Sifu Ray
“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumblebee,
the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live
your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.”
-Ashley Smith
Contact
info
my
phone- 1-218-341-9894
email=
skrayhayward@gmail.com
blog=
rayhayward.com
website=
mindfulmotiontaichi.com
facebook=
Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy
Ray Hayward Enterprises
YouTube=
Ray Hayward, the Inspired Teacher
Mindful Motion Tai-Chi
Academy
Twitter-
Ray Hayward 1988
my
books at Lulu= lulu.com/spotlight/Ray_Hayward
my
books on Amazon= amazon.com/author/rayhayward
my
Patreon page= patreon.com/rayhayward
Instagram=
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School
shirts- https://www.zazzle.com/single_whip_chakra_tee-235016484610969225
Business
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P.
O. Box 28295
Oakdale,
MN 55128
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Wednesday, May 3, 2023
Tai-Chi at Carelton College
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Bardwell Smith is the major factor in my classes at in the P.E. Dept at Carleton College. He's graduated to heaven now and giving stunning classes and lectures to the heavenly host!! RIP dear friend...
Monday, April 10, 2023
MMTCA April Newsletter 2023
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| The Monkey King Himself! Paul B. Gallagher June 28th 1944- March 24th 2023, R.I.P. |
“One of the benefits of Tai-Chi is the joy of the movement.”
-Master Paul B. Gallagher
It is with a heavy heart that I inform you of the passing of
my classmate, teacher, friend, and brother, Paul Gallagher, to the celestial
realm on March 24th. I will write a blog highlighting Paul’s extraordinary life. I’m
also editing a highlights reel of some of his various forms and practices. I’ll
post a link for his obit when it is published.
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Our schedule remains the
same for April but with this exception. I will only hold one zoom pushing-hands
class this month, Monday, April 17th, 6:30-7:30. We’ll review The Brush Knee
etude. I have one zoom class weekly and will be expanding that in the Fall.
Stay tuned!
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August 25_ 28th Summer Tai-Chi Retreat at Wild
Rice Retreat Center in Bayfield WI.
The cost is 900.00 per person. That includes instruction and
presentations, 2 meals a day, room and lodging, use of the facilities and
sauna, for three nights and two and a half days. We’ll do a long practice each
day, have free time to hike and explore, and have sessions on:
-Solo Form Updates, Review, and Refinement.
-Applications for the 2nd Section.
-2 Advanced Pushing-Hands Drills: Willow #2, and Short
Power.
-Two-Person Cane Form.
-Pa-Kua two-person form, The Black Dragon Wags Its Tail.
The center is a short walk, on a wooded trail along Lake
Superior, to downtown Bayfield. I will also have programs and presentations for
the evenings. I need a deposit (refundable) of 300 dollars by May 1st.
If we have enough people to make this a go, I’ll expect the balance by August 1st.
I’ll be arranging rides for the out-of-town people and will coordinate carpools
for the locals.
Book Suggestion= Drawing Silk by Paul B. Gallagher
https://www.amazon.com/Drawing-Silk-Masters-Successful-Practice/dp/1419663127
I’ve been getting requests for beginner classes. Right now,
I’m not offering any in my schedule. Julie Cisler offers a variety of times and
venues for beginners. If you are up to the 2nd Needle at Sea Bottom
at the time of this newsletter, you can contact me about joining my classes.
There are many others teaching with my blessing, but for now, here is Julie’s
schedule:
All
of these classes are open to beginners, and all of the in-person classes are
hybrid classes, with a Zoom option. Start anytime!
Mondays 11:30am-12:30pm this class is a virtual-only class on
Zoom.
Tuesdays 6:30-8:00pm at the Black Forest Inn Banquet building.
The Banquet building is on the east side of the Black Forest Inn's patio
seating. Enter through the restaurant, or we can let you in through the door on
26th street.
Parking is available on the street and in the restaurant’s parking lot, which is
just south of the restaurant on Nicollet Ave.
http://www.blackforestinnmpls.
Wednesdays 12:00-1:30pm at Walker Community Church
3104 16th Ave S, Minneapolis MN 55407
We are renting their big beautiful sanctuary! If no one meets you at the door,
text Julie to be let in.
Street parking is available.
http://walkerchurch.org
Fridays 3:30-5:00pm at the Black Forest Inn Banquet building.
This is the same location as the Tuesday evening class.
Saturdays 12:00-1:30pm at Christ Church Lutheran, 3244 34th Avenue
South
Minneapolis, MN 55406
Please text me at 612-876-7915 to be let into this building too. We will
practice in their huge lower-level gymnasium.
http://www.christchurchluth.
Contact Julie if you have any additional questions. If you
want to be invited to attend via Zoom, please contact her by email.
Julie Cisler
612-876-7915
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Paul Brennan translation=Methods of Applying Tai-Chi Chuan
by Yang Cheng-fu. Most of our linneages come directly from Yang Cheng-fu,
enjoy!
https://brennantranslation.wordpress.com/2011/11/24/methods-of-applying-taiji-boxing-taiji-quan-shiyong-fa/
Zoom Pushing Hands is on April 17th. Email for an
invite or join Patreon.
Happy Birthday this month, and last month, to all my
numerous ARIES!
-Sifu Ray
“Live life as if it’s rigged in your favor.”
Contact info
my phone- 1-218-341-9894
email= skrayhayward@gmail.com
blog= rayhayward.com
website= mindfulmotiontaichi.com
facebook= Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy
Ray Hayward Enterprises
YouTube= Ray Hayward, the Inspired Teacher
Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy
Twitter- Ray Hayward 1988
my books at Lulu=
lulu.com/spotlight/Ray_Hayward
my books on Amazon=
amazon.com/author/rayhayward
my Patreon page= patreon.com/rayhayward
Instagram= Ray Hayward, or,
ataoistsufitemplardruidviking
School shirts- https://www.zazzle.com/single_whip_chakra_tee-235016484610969225
Business address,
P. O. Box 28295
Oakdale, MN 55128
#rayhayward#taiji#taichichuan#pakua#hsingyi#sword#qigong#yichuan#wudangsword#chinna#standingmeditation#taoistmeditation#taoistlove#semenretention#masterttliang#wailunchoi#mindfulmotiontaichiacademy#rayhaywardtheinspiredteacher#inspiredteacher#rayhaywardblog#sanshou#prayingmantis#karambit#
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Friday, March 3, 2023
MMTCA March Newsletter 2023
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| Master Shi Diaomei |
“Knowledge can be
communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, be fortified by it, do
wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.”
- Hermann Hesse
Our schedule remains the
same for March, but with this exception. I will only hold one zoom
pushing-hands class this month. Monday, March 20th, 6:30-7:30, we’ll
go over The Brush Knee etude.
August 25_ 28th Summer Tai-Chi Retreat at Wild
Rice Retreat Center in Bayfield WI.
The cost is 900.00 per person. That includes instruction and
presentations, 2 meals a day, room and lodging, use of the facilities and sauna,
for three nights and two and a half days. We’ll do a long practice each day,
have free time to hike and explore, and have sessions on:
-Solo Form Updates, Review, and Refinement.
-Applications for the 2nd Section.
-2 Advanced Pushing-Hands Drills: Willow #2, and Short
Power.
-Two-Person Cane Form.
-Pa-Kua two-person form.
The center is a short walk, on a wooded trail along Lake
Superior, to downtown Bayfield. I will also have programs and presentations for
the evenings. I need a deposit (refundable) of 300 dollars by May 1st.
If we have enough people to make this a go, I’ll expect the balance by August 1st.
I’ll be arranging rides for the out-of-town people and will coordinate carpools
for the locals.
Book suggestion: Tai-Chi Chuan Body and Mind in Harmony by
Sophia Delza
Some people have been getting amazing wooden swords and
sabers from Little Raven Studios. I just received the Tai-Chi Saber as a
holiday present, thank you D. J.!! These
training weapons are of absolutely the highest quality! Here are some
recommendations:
Sword= https://www.little-raven.com/product/ching-jian/
https://www.little-raven.com/product/ming-jian/
Saber= https://www.little-raven.com/product/tai-chi-dao/
https://www.little-raven.com/product/ox-tail-saber-niu-wei-dao/
March 29th is Grandmaster Wai-lun Choi’s 84th
birthday! And it’s his Chinese Animal year, the Rabbit! I’m putting together a
card with red envelopes. If you want to add a red envelope, get it to me before
the 18th.
Order your school T-shirts here at Zazzle. Hoodies are on
the way!
https://www.zazzle.com/single_whip_chakra_tee-235016484610969225
Paul Brennen has done an amazing job translating Chinese
Martial Arts books into English. Each newsletter, I’m going to suggest a book
either by one of Master Liang’s teachers, or Master Choi’s teachers, or authors
in our direct lineage and martial arts family. This month’s suggestion is a
book by Shi Diao-mei. Shi was one of Master Liang’s teachers in Taiwan. Shi was
a student of Tian Sou-lin and the classmate of Chen Yen-ling (Yearning K. Chen).
( I have Master Liang’s signed copy)
https://brennantranslation.wordpress.com/2019/03/31/taiji-boxing-according-to-shi-diaomei/
If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to my YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtlwnHdNjN-Dd5Hjsi3akYQ
Thank you all for your continuing appreciation and commitment
to the art of Tai-Chi Chuan,
-Sifu Ray
“Courage is knowing what not to fear.”
-Plato
my phone- 1-218-341-9894
email= skrayhayward@gmail.com
blog= rayhayward.com
website= mindfulmotiontaichi.com
facebook= Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy
Ray Hayward Enterprises
YouTube= Ray Hayward, the Inspired Teacher
Mindful Motion Tai-Chi Academy
Twitter- Ray Hayward 1988
my books at Lulu=
lulu.com/spotlight/Ray_Hayward
my books on Amazon=
amazon.com/author/rayhayward
my Patreon page= patreon.com/rayhayward
Instagram= Ray Hayward, or,
ataoistsufitemplardruidviking
Business address,
P. O. Box 28295
Oakdale, MN 55128
#rayhayward#taiji#taichichuan#pakua#hsingyi#sword#qigong#yichuan#wudangsword#chinna#standingmeditation#taoistmeditation#taoistlove#semenretention#masterttliang#wailunchoi#mindfulmotiontaichiacademy#rayhaywardtheinspiredteacher#inspiredteacher#rayhaywardblog#sanshou#prayingmantis#karambit#personalclasses#pushinghands#fajing#imsak#rosslynchapel#druidry#cerridwen#letstalkaboutsex#magic#westernmysteries#breathwork#wimhof#bagua#lulubooksrayhaywardauthor#amazonbooksrayhayward#patreonrayhaywardtheinspiredteacher#taijispear#treegong#knightstemplar#alchemy#holygrail#freemasonry
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